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A Boy, A Girl, and The Marine Corps: A Love Triangle: August 2010

A Boy, A Girl, and The Marine Corps: A Love Triangle

"I cast my lot with a Marine and where he was, was home to me." ~ Anonymous.

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Note to Self:

Always remember to get your military ID renewed as soon as it expires.

I was out of town when mine expired on the fourth of this month. I was at WSU and nowhere near a base to get it renewed. I asked my husband to make me an appointment to get it renewed when I got home and he forgot or something and I forgot because I was taking my exam and starting my new job and all of that.

Our base here does it by appointment only, and only Monday through Friday, and only certain hours. :(

So, I forgot it was expired and went up to NEX and the commissary to go grocery shopping. I stopped by NEX first to buy beer for the hubby. I showed my ID, and put it away. The woman then said she needed to see the birthday on it because I was buying alcohol. When I gave her my ID again, she said, "Did you know this is expired?" Crap! I did know, but I forgot.

Did you know that if you have an expired ID they take it away? I didn't. They confiscated my ID.

So, I now have no military ID and can't get on base. They gave me a lovely form that said they confiscated it because it was expired, so, at least I can get my ID renewed... But I don't really know how I'm going to do that with work and all. The first weekday I have off is on the 30th of this month, so hopefully I can get an appointment then. But I don't know if they will let me on base or not without my husband there to vouch for me. If they won't, then it will be a very long time before I can get my ID renewed because of his work schedule...

On the bright side, I'm sure this sort of thing happens all the time and I'm pretty sure they will let me on base to get my new ID. Let's hope they are that understanding.

So, to all you military wives out there: Get your ID renewed ASAP! Don't do what I did and have it confiscated in front of all of those people. SO EMBARRASSING!


So, in less than a month my husband will have returned from deployment exactly a year ago. In three months is when he actually came home. But in all reality, he didn't return to work until the middle of this January and return to life until later than that.

I was in school when he returned stateside. My life was very full with that, but it was ok because he wasn't actually home. Then he came home and it was ok because he was on leave and was home 24 hours a day. But then he returned to work. We did ok, but it was tough. I got home from school a little before bedtime and we would lay in bed together. I would stay up and watch tv in bed while he went to sleep. It wasn't too bad.

But, I graduated two weeks ago, and started my new job this last week. We get up around the same time in the morning, but I like to be sure I get lots of sleep and I don't sleep well, so I got to bed at least an hour earlier than my husband. I get off work much earlier than he does, so I'm home and doing stuff before he gets home. But he gets home an hour before I head to bed, so we don't really get to spend much time together. After next week, my schedule changes. I will need to be at work a hour and a half before he even gets out of bed. So, I will have to be in bed before he gets home from work. :(

To make it even better, I will be working Tuesday through Saturday and he works Monday through Friday. He's not very pleased with this schedule. It's not permanent, but it is for the next two months minimum. He's being very grumpy about it. There is nothing I can do about my work schedule and I don't want to quit my job. I like my job. So, now, we will go to only seeing each other one day a week.

It won't be the worst. For a year, I worked nights and he worked days. I went to bed right as he was getting up for work in the morning, and I left for work right as he was getting home. We never saw each other. On the weekends, I slept all day because that was my schedule and he didn't. But it was hard. Eventually, something gave and I had to transfer to a different shift. I won't be able to do that at this job.

I'm really hoping this works it's self out and we can be happy to see each other on Sundays and do ok during the week not seeing each other.

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Feeling Crappy

Last week I became an official graduate. I also found out that they changed our graduation ceremony from November to September.

I sent out an email inviting everyone to my ceremony last week. I then sent out a second email inviting some people to my graduation party that is the next day. I then sent out a reminder email about both yesterday because hardly anyone responded.

So far, the only people who have responded to my reminder emails are those that had already RSVP'd. Most of them RSVP'd no.

I'm feeling pretty crappy because only a handful of people RSVP'd yes to my ceremony and only 11 people (out of at least 35) have RSVP'd yes to my party (most people have not RSVP'd at all). Now, I know it was only a months notice, but usually that is enough time for everyone to check their calendars and get back to me. I have never given more than a months notice for any of our other parties. I do usually send out paper invites too, but, between my family reunion and starting my new job, I just didn't have time. I explained that in the email so people wouldn't be waiting for them. (usually I send out a pre-invite email, then a paper invite)

What to hear what is really crappy and sad? Not even my own mother RSVP'd to my graduation. I'm not kidding. As of now, my parents are not coming. They live a half hour from the venue, it wouldn't be hard for them to make it. That hurts.

It feels crappy to have worked so hard for so long and to finally graduate and have no one care enough to celebrate with you.

Sucky. :(

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Baby Monkeys

I got to hold a less than one month old baby monkey today! She was as big as my hand and cooed when I pet her. She basically just clung to my fingers and laid in my palm. She occasionally licked me. :)

So cute!

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

The life of the employed

Well, it's the evening after my second day of work.

I'd say I'm adjusting well. My only experience working full time was during my two externships, and I enjoyed it, but I thought I would have a hard time adjusting to it. Really, the hardest thing to adjust to is not having homework. It feels weird to come home after work and not have anything to do. I have time to pick up the house and do dishes and still have time left over before bed to watch a little TV!

So far I like my job. I'm in the department I wanted. It seems pretty cool so far. I'm not a tech, but I was told I can eventually transfer to a tech job. Really, I just needed my foot in the door and that was accomplished by taking the job I have. Unfortunately, I work in a confidential field and had to sign a lot of paperwork saying I wouldn't talk too much about what I do. :( It means, I will probably not be able to talk much about work or what exactly I do or my job title. But, know that so far I'm liking it.

It feels weird to be out of school. I will have to get used to having free time. That feels wrong. LOL! I feel like I should be doing something other than watching TV. It's going to take a bit to get used to having free time... Last week, I came home and had to study for my licensing exam, then I had a huge family reunion, so I didn't really get to experience spare time. This feels strange, but I really like it. I may take up some of my old hobbies!

Friday, August 13, 2010

Cool as a Cucumber

I have an uncanny knack for being cool under pressure. I never get test anxiety, I never stress when I have people looking over my shoulder... Not even when a lot is riding on it. I didn't lose a wink of sleep over my licensing exam. I slept like a baby the night before it. I didn't so much as get a single butterfly in my stomach the day of. Not even knowing that I did not get as much studying done as I would have liked to. I only had time for one of my review books, I didn't have a chance to go over and memorize the list of parasites that I was unfamiliar with. I never did finish a single outline for a single topic. But I just shrugged my shoulders and said, "it is what it is."

That said, it catches up with me. I took my licensing exam on Wend. I went and visited my school afterward to see a teacher and wish some of my former classmates good luck on finals. I then went home and slept incredibly well. But yesterday I was anxious for no good reason. Not all the time, but it would kind of sneak up on me at random throughout the day.

I went to a family reunion and visited, drove home (late, I might add) exhausted from a long day, took a Nyquil and laid in bed until 4am. Every time I closed my eyes I would dream about multiple choice questions. What is the generic name for the drug in the question? I can't remember! No, no, the dose for that animal isn't correct, that is way too much medication, that would kill the animal! And so on, and so forth all night.

At 4 am I gave up and went downstairs to watch TV until my husband woke up. On the bright side, because I have insomnia anyway, on a normal day, I am well adept at living life with very little (or in this case no) sleep. My record is two consecutive days with no sleep at all and two weeks with less than four hours a night. You do sort of get used to it. But I just hate that my stress sneaks up on me like that. I feel cool, calm and collected, never rattled for anything and then BAM! It all hits me at once. Luckily, I don't do this all the time, and when it does happen, it is always after the stressful event. I call it my "delayed reaction" to stress. I don't worry about things before they happen, but man, do I fret after it is over.

Hopefully, tonight, I will be so tired that I will just crash.

Thursday, August 12, 2010


A "not really a friend of mine" friend on Facebook made a really racist comment the other day.

She said she was pronouncing something like "a retarded China-man." I simply commented that that was a rather derogatory thing to say. She replied, jokingly, that her french ancestors wouldn't have it with her pronunciation of a french word. I replied, that the asian american in me takes little consolation in that.

She said that she suffers from a mental disability and thinks that retarded is also derogatory, but that "she takes consolation in the fact that, at least she has a sense of humor."

I replied that I also have a mental disability (I'm severely bipolar) and that I didn't realized that they gave me leave to be a racist. I also clarified for her that being ethnic or having a disability (of any kind) does not give you the ok to use derogatory and racist remarks.

She told me to "go fuck myself and the high horse I rode in on." Among other things.

What gets me (don't worry, I had already de-friended her by the time she got nasty with me) is that a few months ago she got all upset that Family Guy had done an episode on animal testing during which they made a joke that made light of animal testing. I am not, personally, against animal testing but this girl is a major animal rights activist. She was deeply offending by a CARTOON that was very obviously going over the top. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion about what offends them, but I don't understand how she can be so deeply offended by something like that, but not care that I'm offending at her using such a horribly racist term.

What makes people think that it's ok to say racist things as long as they are "joking?" And more over, even if you don't think what you said was offensive, isn't the appropriate response to someone being offending by it, "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you?" And more over, she actually wrote that she was going to say "retarded asia" but felt that that was more offensive then China-man. And she was aghast that I wasn't more offended by her use of retarded.

What is this world coming to? What is wrong with people?

Now, I usually don't use Facebook as a forum to voice my opinions, but I was irritated and my husband got me all riled up and encouraged me to fire back at her... He's very good at that. I positively hate confrontation and I should have taken a deep breath, let it go and just de-friended her without ever saying anything. Now, I'm going to ruminate on this for days. GRRR.

I just don't understand how I'm being "high and mighty" about using racial slurs, but she's not high and mighty when every post on her Facebook is about how animal testing is wrong and anyone who doesn't used cruelty free products is a bad person. I freely admit that I'm offending by somethings and not others. I also admit that I can be hypocritical at times, who can't. But at least I can see when I am being hypocritical and admit I am wrong. And if I offend someone, even when I don't think I'm being offensive, I apologize.

How on earth can I let this go! I know it's going to bother me. UGH! This is why I don't get into confrontations with people.

I made my husband promise to not let me do stuff like that again. It's not really his fault. He loves to confront people and call them out and all of that. He just doesn't always remember that I don't and things like this bother me and stick with me.

I wasn't trying to be a bitch to this girl, I was just trying to remind her that there is not really ever a good excuse to use racial slurs.

Maybe I'm wrong about that, but it doesn't feel like I am. :(

Preliminary Pass

I got a preliminary pass on my licensing exam!

If you read the fine print, it doesn't mean I passed. It means they think I passed, but will get back to me in three to four weeks when they have had a chance to actually review my test. But I think I have a good shot at passing!

Now, it's on to the rest of my busy week! Family gatherings, getting ready for my new job, and, hopefully, catching up on sleep.

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Here I Go!

Home, studied, and ready to take my VTNE today, in about an hour!

Then off to family stuff for the rest of the week, and then my new job!

I had my exit interview at school yesterday, so as of 1:30 pm, I was officially a graduate! My graduation ceremony is in a month! Which is crazy because it was supposed to be in November, so I don't have much notice for people to be able to come.

Wish me luck on my exam!

Saturday, August 7, 2010

I'm home!

I'm home!

We drove all night. Got in around 5am, promptly got into our first fight, kissed and made up, then went to bed around 7am. LOL!

I'm tired, I need to unpack, I need to do laundry, I need to study... But I think I'm just going to sit here and do nothing.

I acclimated to the weather in Eastern WA and now that I'm home, I'm freezing!!!! It's 74 degrees in my house and 68 outside and I'm in sweats and a sweatshirt. It was 90-100 degrees in Pullman the whole week before I left. This is gonna be an interesting rest of my summer. My husband insisted on sleeping with the ceiling fan on last night. UGH! I was so cold, and he was too hot! LOL!

So, I need to get back on a normal sleep schedule, study for my licensing exam, buy cloths for work, attend my family gatherings, and start my new job!!! But really? All I want to do it sleep and relax. Sigh.

Sunday, August 1, 2010


I'm staring down my last week at WSU. My last week of school!

I'm staring down my last week to study for my licensing exam. Then I will be in the real world!

I'm staring down my last two weeks before starting my new job. Holy Cow!

My hubby came and visited me this weekend, then he flies in Friday to pick me up and drive me home. 5 days is all I have left in Pullman.

I thought I wanted to stay. I love it here and have loved working at the vet hospital, but this weekend, a few frat boys showed up and moved their stuff into the frat house I'm living in. And by moved in, I mean, stacked all their furniture and crap in the hallway and dinning room. I walked into the bathroom yesterday to find an empty smoothie container on the toilet. UGH! It's going to be a long week... A long, filthy, dirty, messing, disgusting week. I am so ready to go home to my nice, clean house.

Only four more days of work and one day to pack, then I'm done!